Ayurveda is the Science of Life, and the art of living in harmony with nature. Its origin dates back to India, more than 5,000 years ago. Ayurveda is a “sister science” with Yoga and Meditation. When practiced together, these sciences help us to reach our full potential in body, mind, and spirit. There are many ways that we can incorporate Ayurveda into our lives so that we can be our healthiest and happiest.
In Ayurveda, sex is considered an essential part of life. It is important in our love relationships just as food or sleep is to us individually. Ayurveda says that sex is not merely a physical act, but the union of two bodies, minds and souls. It is meant as a loving expression between two willing, monogamous adults.
To help make the act of having sex a fulfilling and even spiritual experience, Ayurveda has these 5 tips:
1. Choose the best time of day
According to Ayurveda, the ideal time of day for sex is between 10:00 and 11:00 PM. This is a time when we are relaxed, and can give our partner the undivided attention that he or she deserves; the mind is undistracted, not taking us elsewhere. At this time of night (at least 2 hours after eating) food has been thoroughly digested and sleep can come directly after.
2. Be loving, compassionate, and faithful
Ayurveda explains that when sex is satisfying, and practiced over time with one partner, it helps the relationship and it also helps the two individuals to be healthy and vital.
“Unsatisfying” sex, or sex that makes one of the individuals uncomfortable, can have negative effects on both mental and physical health. Ayurveda strictly prohibits “misuse” of sex in any way because it opens up a storm of emotional and psychological issues. Examples of “misuse” would be having sex when you are angry, having sex with someone you don’t love, or having sex when either person is not feeling well, or doesn’t want to participate.
3. Know your dosha, and your partner’s dosha
The frequency of sex depends on the constitution of each individual. In Ayurveda there are three mind/body types, or doshas: Vata, Pitta, and Kapha. Each has its own qualities, strengths and challenges.
Kapha type people, dominant in the earth and water elements, possess more stamina than others. They indulge in sex less frequently but for longer periods of time – quality over quantity.
Pitta dosha types, dominant in the fire and water elements, are very passionate people. They like intense sex, it can be difficult to quench their desire.
Vata types, dominant in the elements of air and space, are inconsistent with their desire. They prefer to mix things up, rather than to be in a routine. They like change, and happy surprises.
4. Engage the five senses
All of the five senses should be engaged in sex. The environment, food, music, and lighting all play an important part in developing intimacy, closeness and comfort. Take time to set the stage, and be mindful of your surroundings.
Kapha types are particularly sensitive to taste and smell, so keep this in mind when you want to help get your Kapha going. It’s all about the tongue, and the nose. A wonderful meal, scented candles, some aromatherapy – all help to win over a Kapha partner.
Pitta’s dominant sense is sight, so they respond most to visual stimulation. Make sure they like what they see. Set the stage with soft lighting, beautiful flowers, or a sexy ensemble.
Vatas respond most to touch and sound. They love to hear sweet words whispered, and feel warm hands on their cool skin. A warm oily massage, and some soft music help get Vata to focus on the task at hand.
5. Mark your calendar
Springtime is Kapha time, so we are all a bit under the spell of spring fever during this time of year. It’s a very flirty, loving, and romantic season. Pitta time is during the hot months of summer. It is common for people to feel a bit more passionate, or “hot” when the weather heats up. The cool and dry months of Fall and Winter are Vata season. We are all under the influence of Vata a bit more with that cold nip in the air. It’s a good time to cuddle, as we need more “warm up” time to get in the mood for more.